Why He didn't Call

After the first encounter with the man of your dreams, you'll probably begin to wonder when you'll ever speak to him again. As you analyze the time you spent together, you will probably have that awkward feeling, butterflies in your stomach. You may toy the visions of the future. Should you wear the red dress on your first date? Would he take you at Gary Danko? Or if you're feeling really imaginative, you would probably play with his last name with your first!

Generally speaking, men do not think this way. They lack this kind of imagination. They don't think 10 steps ahead. It is even hard for them to make the first step. So after all those daydreaming, you realize it's been 2-3 days and still he hasn't called! What gives?

Why didn't he call?

He may not call because he fears rejection.

He is afraid that when he calls, he might get a voicemail, or worse, you won't even remember his name. His ego just can't handle it. So no matter how well the first encounter went, men still dread making the first phone call.

He may not call because he thinks you're not his type.

You know how you get when you evaluate the little details after your first encounter? Men do the same too. So when you probably thought you're just meant for each other, he might think the other way around. Maybe he's athletic and you mentioned that you hate doing anything physical. Or, he likes spending time at home, just chill and he knows you love to go out every saturday night (and come home the next day!) So he thinks you're too outgoing for him.

He may not call because he's too busy or she's too busy.

You see, a man, no matter how busy he is will take a minute or two of his busy schedule to call you. If he's really not that interested enough, then he's busy lifestyle will get in the way.

He may not call because he didn't have the intention of calling but is out there to get "the number."

Some men want to know they still have "it." This is basically just an ego booster. He enjoys the challenge, he plays the field. And when he gets the number, game's over. Now, on to the next!

So what encourages a man to call? Come back for the next blog... :)