What Men Want Women To Know About Men

"Most women don't realize that men need sex to feel emotionally connected."
-Micheal, 33

"Men want to be liked as much as loved. Intimacy is the greatest turn-on. If you share your fantasies and desires, the guy will go to great lengths to please you."
-Wes, 39

"Men like things simple and clear. The more complicated a thing becomes, the less interested the man will be."
-Sammy, 25

"Even if we're asleep, we're ready for sex."
-Randy, 28

"We never get hints."
-Charles, 27

"We wonder why you frequently make us do mental aerobics - asking us hypothetical questions that no man in his right mind would answer truthfully unless he liked getting kicked in the nuts or banished to the couch. Example: Would you ever like to sleep with any of my friends?"
-Ross, 42

"I think women just feel love in a more flowery pink kind of way. One night while leaving in a movie theater, when I was starting to feel sick, my fiancee wrapped her arms around my neck and asked, 'What are you thinking?' I replied, 'I hope I don't puke.' She said, 'Oh, no, that's not the answer I was looking for,' even though she knew how I was feeling. On the way to the car, she was admiring the full moon, thinking I was too, and was expecting me to mention in a romatic way, but, nope, I was sick."
-Sam, 37

"We're not complicated creatures. The big three for us are food, sex, and sports (not necessarily in that order). Try not to overanalyze everything we say or do. We mostly mean what we say. Just because we look at another woman doesn't mean we're going to sleep with her. We are going to screw up. It's hard for us to say 'I'm sorry.' Give us time and the opportunity to say it in our own way."
-Frank, 38

"Women don't know how insane it drives us when they ask us, 'What are you thinking about?' Sometimes, we're not thinking."
-Leon, 39

"He's probably trying his best. Give him credit for it."
-Seth, 43

"Most of the time, we will do anything we can for you."
-Gary, 38

"A man wants to take care of his woman to the best of his ability. We're a little rough around the edges. That's what a man is - a provider, a protector, a father."
-Evan, 31

"We go to the store to buy some jeans, and we leave with just the jeans. They think that because we didn't buy a new suit, shirt, tie, shoes, and wallet to match our jeans that something is wrong. Women expect men to have the same thought process as they do, and they're wrong."
-Lee, 28

"Men are always secretly afraid that they've done something wrong."
-Ed, 40

"We need time to play."
-Luke, 34

The Powerful Love Letter

It's normal for couples to argue. But sometimes, these arguments escalate into a big fight. One small thing can lead to another. In the end, you don't even know what you're fighting about until it's too late and you're both hurt and upset.

So how do you communicate your hurt feelings to your partner? Write him a love letter. It is not easy to talk to him about your hurt feelings because even though how nicely you phrase your request, when he hears a demanding tone, what he hears is that he is not giving enough.

Here's a technique on how to write a love letter to communicate your difficult feelings:

I am writing this letter to share my feelings with you. If you feel that I'm blaming, please don't. I'm only expressing how I feel.

1. Anger
I dont like it.....
I'm angry that....
I feel frustrated....
I'm upset because....

2. Sadness
I am sad that...
I am hurt because...
I don't want...
I want...

3. Fear
I am afraid...
I feel hurt...
I wanted...
I feel scared...

4. Regret
I regret that...
I'm sorry for...
I feel embarrassed...
I feel ashamed...

5. Love
I love...
I appreciate...
I thank you for...
I understand...
I forgive...
I know...

The response I would like to hear from you: _________________________________.

A response letter is very important because it lets your partner know what you need.


Here's a sample of Lori's love letter:

Dear John,

I am writing this letter to share my feelings with you. If you feel that I'm blaming, please don't. I'm only expressing how I feel.

I angry that you showed up late. I hate it when you made me wait for an hour. I'm mad because it made me feel unimportant and taken for granted.

I am sad that we fought on our first wedding anniversary. I am sad that you had to deal with all the traffic to pick me up from work. I am afraid we're drifting apart. I am afraid that you're losing interest.

I regret for hanging up on you. I'm sorry for being impatient. I feel embarrassed getting so upset. I'm sorry if I was too demanding. I'm sorry for not appreciating your effort.

Thank you for taking me out to dinner to a wonderful restaurant. I understand why you had to be late. I forgive you for losing your temper. Thank you for the diamond necklace that you gave me for our anniversary. I love you always.

With love,

Lori

P.S: The response I would like to hear from you: "Lori, I understand how you feel. I'm sorry for making you wait. You don't deserve that. Tonight I will spend time with you and hold you because i love you. I'm happy that you are my wife."

DO's & DONT's in Every Relationship

* Dont Pee with the door open. Always maintain some privacy even though you're married.

* Don't nag. Nagging will just keep you apart.

* Do ask him to help you with the laundry.

* Do cook together.

* Don't burp, fart or pick your nose in front of him. It is very unfeminine and a major turn off. Keep your poise ladies!

* Don't let him see you read self-help relationship books.

* Do keep your independence. Even though you're married or have been dating for several months, a woman who still has her own life will always remain interesting.

* Don't drown him with gossips. That's what our girlfriends are here for! :)

* Do flirt with him everyday.

TOP 10 most romantic things for HIM

10. Treat him to a nice relaxing massage and spa. Get a milk or mud bath together!

9. Get him a new sexy scent of perfume.

8. Take pictures together. Hire a professional photographer!

7. Take him to a five star restaurant in the city and tell him what a great lover he's been for the past 5 years. Appreciation is as sweet as sugar.

6. Or, cook his favorite meal for dinner. Home cooked meal is really a great way to a man's heart.

5. Surprise him tickets to the COLTS game... or whatever is his fave team. Try to enjoy it with him, wear jerseys and have fun!

4. After a heated argument, write a love letter to apologize.

3. Prepare an aphrodisiac. Quick-grilled Oysters with garlic, cheese and butter is another way to spice up the evening.

2. Plan a vacation together. Request PTO from work, and take your love partner to Lake Tahoe on winter and warm yourselves near the fireplace or, take a bubble bath together on a heart-shaped jacuzzi. Don't forget the Bath Bombs from LUSH .

1. Learn to do a sensual dance. Get a new pair of sexy lingerie and treat him with a dessert he'll truly enjoy --- you!

7 Signs A Man Is Cheating

1. Change routines.

Whatever happened to wake up, go to work, 11:00 eat burrito, 2:30 call you that he's on his way home, play battlefield 2 on the computer, greet you when you get home from work? If something doesn't fit his daily routines, or if it seems that lately everything is unpredictable, you might want to pay more attention. Well sometimes, we do something different to be spontaneous, but if it happens regularly, it's time to wake up.

2. More conscious of his looks.

New haircut, smells like he showered a bottle of Hugo Boss, shaves more than he regularly does, tie perfectly in place... you get the picture! Taking good care of your appearance is important. But if it happened all too sudden, then think twice. If you know your partner very well, and you know he's not the type who's conscious about his looks, then there's a chance there might be something else than just looking good.

3. Loses interest in sex.

Thrice a week, became twice then once. Or if you're lucky, twice a month? There are other factors that causes him to lose his libido. Stress can be one of them, lack of variety, or unresolved problem. If his attitude at work hasn't changed, and he's active in every aspect of his life... then there might be a chance he's getting it elsewhere.

4. Coming home late.

Has he been spending more late nights at work than he normally does? When you call him, have you been getting more of his voicemails lately? It's possible that the workplace has been very busy and it requires him to do overtime. But if he doesn't return your calls or worse, if you call the office and you get an answering machine saying "Sorry, the office is now closed.." then something's fishy darling.

5. Clam up or acting distant.

Does he sit down and comfort you and give you the reassurance you need? Or is he trying to brush you off calling you psycho? you be the judge but remember, he might clam up for different issues so don't blame or attack him. Talk with love and handle it maturely.

6. Too Sweet like honey.

Although this is what every woman's wish, if he's been acting too affectionate, surrounding you with all the love that it feels suffocating, then he might be sugarcoating something. You've been together for years, and everything was comfortable, or let's say "normal." Both are laid back, you know where the two of you stand in each other's lives, so once in a while we do appreciate the attention and the flowers, it gets creepy when he's all charged up and romantic... like he has to prove his point.

7. The obvious.

When he gets home and you hug him and see a strand of blonde hair on his blazer, his underwear flipped to side B, unknown numbers and sweet text messages on the cellphone, flirting at myspace or craigslist, etc. You might not like what you see, but to see is to believe.. Ta dahhhh!

Why He didn't Call

After the first encounter with the man of your dreams, you'll probably begin to wonder when you'll ever speak to him again. As you analyze the time you spent together, you will probably have that awkward feeling, butterflies in your stomach. You may toy the visions of the future. Should you wear the red dress on your first date? Would he take you at Gary Danko? Or if you're feeling really imaginative, you would probably play with his last name with your first!

Generally speaking, men do not think this way. They lack this kind of imagination. They don't think 10 steps ahead. It is even hard for them to make the first step. So after all those daydreaming, you realize it's been 2-3 days and still he hasn't called! What gives?

Why didn't he call?

He may not call because he fears rejection.

He is afraid that when he calls, he might get a voicemail, or worse, you won't even remember his name. His ego just can't handle it. So no matter how well the first encounter went, men still dread making the first phone call.

He may not call because he thinks you're not his type.

You know how you get when you evaluate the little details after your first encounter? Men do the same too. So when you probably thought you're just meant for each other, he might think the other way around. Maybe he's athletic and you mentioned that you hate doing anything physical. Or, he likes spending time at home, just chill and he knows you love to go out every saturday night (and come home the next day!) So he thinks you're too outgoing for him.

He may not call because he's too busy or she's too busy.

You see, a man, no matter how busy he is will take a minute or two of his busy schedule to call you. If he's really not that interested enough, then he's busy lifestyle will get in the way.

He may not call because he didn't have the intention of calling but is out there to get "the number."

Some men want to know they still have "it." This is basically just an ego booster. He enjoys the challenge, he plays the field. And when he gets the number, game's over. Now, on to the next!

So what encourages a man to call? Come back for the next blog... :)

Be Visible!

How on earth can you meet the man of your dreams if you're at home watching television all day? Brad Pitt is never gonna come out of that screen no matter how many times you stare at it. Forget the frozen dinner.. ask your friends out on a saturday night! Or why not take your dog out for a walk? Do you even know your neighbors? Enjoy the world! Meeting new people is more exciting than watching television! :)

People driving past your house are not going to know there is a single person inside looking for a date! So make the effort to get up and go out. At home, the kind of people you'll ever meet is the mailman, the pizza delivery guy, or if you're lucky, a hot plumber?!